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Folks think this is a wonky process. As a stay-home, work-from-home, parent, I should rightfully claim all of my spouse's income, right? Well, yes and no. That is the agreement that we made before getting married, but it does not mean taking resources from others to fulfill the emptiness within your world.
And this is not a metaphorical emptiness, or even a philosophical one. If I want/need something, there is a pool which I can dip into - a supply put there with collective hard work from Mr. The Mister and myself. Even more, if I so desire some fancy yarn, or a new incense to use while meditating, that tributary of wealth is there for me to use as well. However, if I want to try my hand at working online again, for myself, in a capacity that will need a little "seed" money, then it is absolutely on me to provide it. Even though, and this is a big one, my entire family would support me in all ways so that I could live my goals/dreams.
For me this way of thinking helps me at my core - that place where my spirit and heart reside. If I mess up, then it is my own doing, and I will not be pulling from the larder to feed only myself.
There are wonderful parables about this, but there is one that especially resonates as I write this. It is from Taoism, but is often misquoted as being Biblical. "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime." This can also mean that we should never expect anyone to "fish" for us.
Just a few thoughts on a cloudy Tuesday morning.
-keu/yarn and zen